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11 Jul 12

Mums, Mugs & Massage - What an amazing idea!

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Written by Naomi Hits: 2032

Yesterday morning myself and 4 other HypnoBirthing mummies were lucky enough to try out the best ever coffee morning....

We didn't take much persuading to go round to Mel's very family friendly home in Angmering and find ourselves a little bit of "me" time.

Mel was so friendly and accommodating as she explained that throughout her 13 years experience in massaging she began to specialise in Pregnancy Massage and from that she began working with lots of new mums so felt inspired to teach tots about the joys of story massage.

My girls (2 & 4) loved being demonstrated on, as Mel showed the mummies how to bring a story massage to life with ever so creative rhymes and actions.  We baked a cake, made a pizza and got ready for bed all through the medium of massage.  A really heart warming activity which all the kids definitely enjoyed.... There were lots of giggles and hugs!

This set the morning up nicely as the kids were all relaxed and played happily with lots of lovely toys in Mel's adjoining dining room.  They were well amused with story sacks, dolls houses, bricks etc for the whole morning which accompanied by the delicious snacks Mel had on offer (Strawberries, Bread sticks and biscuits) made the event a big hit with the kids too.

It gave us mums a great opportunity to have a chat and a catch up.  We all took it in turns to hold each other babies who very kindly allowed their mummies to experience a blissful 20 min massage in Mel's adjoining therapy room.  It was the perfect set up as if any of the wee one's needed their mummy they could go through and watch all the action.  My 2 year old girl was insistent on observing what was happening during my totally amazing massage but soon got bored and wandered back through to join in the kids action in the other rooms.

I can't thank Mel enough for thinking up this really wonderful idea.  It really is the perfect way to spend a morning with mummy friends and absolutely exceptional value too at just £10 per person.  We'll all be back soon Mel.  Watch out.  Think you'll be needing a waiting list as demand for this event will be huge.  I totally 100% recommend it as relaxing morning out (even with a house full of kids!) for NCT groups, Pregnancy Yoga meet ups, And any other post natal pals!

Find out more at http://www.melaniestherapies.com/

 

 
27 Jun 12

What Hypnobirthing isn't.....

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Written by Naomi Hits: 2063

Every time I hear another astonishing myth about what people believe Hypnobirthing is, I shake my head with despair.... It's no wonder that the majority of pregnant couples dismiss it as not for them.  There is so much misleading information and urban myths out there.

So today, rather than focusing on what Hypnobirthing is..... I am going to try and communicate what HypnoBirthing isn't..... and attempt to break down some mystery surrounding HypnoBirthing.

So lets dehypnotise HypnoBirthing and see if I can make it clear what we are NOT!

Hypnobirthers birth in silence!

So the first myth out there I've heard is that mums need to birth in silence! Having had three babies myself I have found this to be impossible despite being super relaxed. I always tell couples that noise can be good.  Your body may need to make some wonderful sounds you've never heard before.  Infact this I used this intuitive chanting (alongside some mooing!) during all of my births.  If you are making a noise then your jaw and mouth will be relaxed which will enable your pelvic floor to also be relaxed as the two areas are linked - We talk a lot more about this during the birth preparation classes.  Also noise does not always equal suffering.

Hypnobirthing is Anti Medicine

This is the most common misconception that couples bring to my Hypnobirthing classes.  Nothing could be further from the truth! We celebrate the amazing medical system that we have here in the UK that routinely saves mothers & babies' lives.  With all the HypnoBirthing in all the world, some mothers and babies will require that assistance and then thank goodness we have modern medicine to assist. 

However, what we do through the Hypnobirthing birth preparation programme is to give couples the confidence to be able to establish whether the medicine is or isn't required.  As we are anti using medicine for convenience.  We discuss in a lot of detail the benefits of natural methods such as "hugs before drugs" so that Hypnobirthing couples approach their births confident that they have the skills to make good informed decisions around the medical approach.

Hypnobirthing is a cult!

I personally am very passionate about creating a positive, safe place for couples to foster friendships and help spread the truth about Birth.  Is that a cult? I prefer to think of it as friendship groups or a community.  It's amazing to watch couples especially dads who were so sceptical about HypnoBirthing go on a huge journey and they end up having really powerful birthing experiences and become huge advocates for Hypnobirthing.... It's no wonder they want to tell everyone about their positive experience.  Better that than scare them with a horror story.  Cult, No... Community & Friends... Yes!

Hypnobirthing sounds weird/alternative/freaky!

I get a lot of feedback especially from dads that the HypnoBirthing label is very off putting.  It sets it up for being a bit wacky.  Couples are always reassured to find that I am "normal".  I'm never really sure what they were expecting! However, I don't wear tie dye, burn josh sticks or even eat whole wheat mung bean sandwiches (thanks Steve Wright!).  I am a normal mum of 3 who has a background working for a one of the world's biggest brands who has discovered that birth is something totally different to what I was brought up to believe.  I have learnt that birth is a normal bodily function and I get a huge buzz about educating couples about how to work with their bodies and hormones rather than against it.  I help couples to work through their fears and axieties surrounding birthing and parenting to help the body work better.  Does that sound wierd or wacky? I hope not.

There's too much to remember to "do" Hypnobirthing

Another common myth.  You cannot "do" Hypnobirthing.  Hypnobirthing is a philosophy backed up with a set of techniques.  Hypnobirthing is a birth preparation programme that prepares couples to allow themselves to go confidently with nature's flow on their birthing day.  With proper preparation a woman's body can function perfectly, resulting in a positive birth experience.  Hypnobirthing shows couples how the birthing body works, how the mind affects the birthing body and provides skills to practise at home so that on the big day they have the self belief and can "let go" and let the body birth the way it knows how as they have released all the fears and negative programming surrounding it.

Hypnosis isn't for me

There are a lot of misconceptions surrouding the hypnosis element of the course.  Some common fears surrounding Hypnonis are that the participant will be made to do something against their will, give up information they don't want to divulge, even dance like a chicken like they've seen on stage show on holiday.

Hypnobirthing couples are always relieved to learn that all hynosis is an everyday state of mind that we all experience every day..... when we get "lost" in a great book or stare at a flame... those hazy moments between being sleep and awake.... forgetting how we drove to work.

Hypnosis allows inward focus which helps a mother go "into her zone"  It's simply relaxing very deeply and having focussed attention.  Birthing companions usually go on to love this part of the course as it's so rare for us to give our minds a break and truely relax.  It can be very enjoyable to switch off.

Don't be scared of hypnosis.... There are no swinging pedulmns, I can't make you do anything you don't want to and you may even find you like it and look forward to it once you allow yourself to discover how powerful your mind can be.

So I hope that this information helps you see through the incorrect rumours that you may have heard.  It's totally normal and fine to be sceptical.  Most couples are before they begin their Hypnobirthing preparation.  If you'd like to talk to me more about your concerns or worries, why not come along to a FREE Hypnobirthing taster evening held on the last Thursday of every month where I'll happily share the truth with you so can make up your own mind whether it's for you based on facts!

Big Hypnobirthing Love from Naomi <3

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
01 Jun 12

Mothers love to all mothers

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Written by Naomi Hits: 1853

On my way home from the preschool run today, I bumped into a mummy friend, it was just a quick catch up but as we parted and I reflected on our conversation I wish I'd had time to say some more so I thought I'd blog about it instead whilst Lenny naps and I have a cup of tea.

When I enquired how my friend was she replied "oh you know, good days and bad, depending on how much sleep we've all had!" Now this mummy has two wee one's under 3 so I totally empathised with her. It seemed she was down and wished I given her a hug and told her that tomorrow would be a better day.

Being a mother is the toughest job in the world, you can argue with me all you like, but I am not budging on this. Despite what some people may think, the days are relentless and not spent skipping through daisy filled fields and being a lady that eats out for lunch (well, unless you count leftover sandwich crusts from the kids' packed lunch).

I have been on big journey as a mother recently. My life has become so unrecognisable that I'll admit i've struggled emotionally with the transition from being a high flying career working mum to a mum of 3 under 5 trying to squeeze running a successful HypnoBirthing practise into the mix but I consider myself so fortunate that I found a vocation that I am so passionate about, all the sacrifices are entirely worthwhile.

A few weeks ago I attended the BabyCalm conference and was lucky another to spend some time with lots of inspirational mothers, Naomi Stadlen one of them. During Naomi's talk very participative open discussion there was so much honesty about the highs and lows of mothering that I found so therapeutic to hear. It's been a huge turning point for my adventures in parenting, to know that I am not alone in my frustrations, stresses & melt down moments (and that's me – not the kids!). There's a whole nation out there with me!

Like birth preparation classes there is not a one size fits all approach to mothering but if you'd like to explore more about all the facets of being a mother, the highs & lows, the struggles, the smiles and the woes. I can highly, highly recommend Naomi's two books – "What Mothers Do" and "How Mothers Love" Both fascinating insights into real mothers and mothering. These are not parenting manuals but explorations into how amazing a mother you are, you just might not have realised it yet.

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Naomi and I share more than just a name. I genuinely care about mothers and their experiences & emotions which is why I organise so many free events to get us socialising and talking. (You don't have to be a HypnoBirthing parent to come along – they are open to all)

So to all mummies (and daddies too – I know there are lots of daddies that are very involved in raising their families) give yourself a hug from me, if you are having a bad day, tomorrow will be better, you are doing an amazing job, your children adore you regardless, have a nice cup of tea and hopefully look forward to some special family times over this lovely bank holiday weekend.

Big HypnoBirthing love from Naomi X

P.S Check out more on Naomi at http://www.naomistadlen.com/how-mothers-love.asp

 
30 May 12

Loving my new Hypnobirthing "Refresh & Relax" nights

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Written by Naomi Hits: 1791

On Monday night I held the second of my new "Relax and Refresh" Hypnobirthing nights. I decided to hold a free monthly get together for all my Hypnomummies as an opportunity to practise their deep relaxation skills and refresh their Hypnobirthing knowledge.
My reason for doing this is that I know from experience and feedback that once Hypnobirthing couples have completed their Hypnobirthing course as and go back out into "normal life" that the negative attitudes of our culture towards birthing can start to eat away at all the confidence building and hard work that the couples put in during their 4 weeks of sessions with me.
(Also I am super nosey and I want to hear how couples are getting on!)

It's quite normal for mum's to have a bit of wobble and doubts to creep back in during this time whilst waiting for your baby's much anticipated arrival so I figured a monthly top up of positive birthing attitude would help Hypnomummies stay on track and focussed.  I remind them to be mindful of the mind & body connection to help ensure that the P.B.A is playing out positive messages.

It's also a nice opportunity for everyone to ask questions, meet other like-minded
Hypnomummies expecting all at the same time and practise some Hypnobirthing
techniques that make up a positive relaxing toolbox for calm & comfortable
births.

I also have been making sure that I have a Hypnobirthing Mummy to tell her story as it's so important that HypnoMummies can see and relate to a normal healthy mum having a normal healthy birth. There is nothing extraordinary about Hypnomummies except that they have taken the time to prepare for a positive birth.

It was also an opportunity to try out a new script called "river story" which all the mums loved, we watched another Hypnobirthing video and practised the 3 Hypnobirthing breathing techniques which for me are the fundamental basis of control and calm during birth.

So all in all a great success... I am really excited about June's Refresh & Relax night.  I'm looking forward to sharing lots more positive stories as lots of Hypnobirthing babies due in June.  Aaron has offered to host a Hypnodaddies night too (at the pub of course) as we don't want to leave the guys out and it's so vital that dads realise the importance this preparation time (over a pint or
two!) Having been my rock for all 3 of our births – His support was far superior for our 2 Hypnobirths. So, look out for the Hypnodaddies night out too next month!!! I might even see if some Hypnodaddies will come along to share their side of their Hypnobirthing experiences.

For anyone else interested in Hypnobirthing and wants to find out more for FREE come along to one of my FREE monthly taster sessions which I hold on the last Thursday of every month.  An opportunity to find out more about the theories and tools and that make Hypnobirths suchpositive experiences for mums, dads & babies.

 
27 Mar 12

A wonderful HypnoBirthing Poem

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Written by Naomi Hits: 2223

To all the HypnoBirth Worthing Mummies and daddies out there!

You're having a baby, how fantastic to know
That for 40 (or so) weeks your baby will grow
Safe within your nourishing womb
Embedded there now, just watch you bloom

You're responsible now for a new little life
Soon you're booked in with the local midwife
Tests and measurements, nutrition advice
A date is given but it won't be precise

Because a baby comes when it's ready we know
Some babies come quicker, some babies are slow
But come it will, so for YOUR birthing day
You decided to see if there's a better way

Hypnobirthing you thought, now that sounds great!
So with HypnoBirth Worthing, you made a date
Then you both came along, each week to class
You're amazed at how fast, 4 weeks can pass

You learn relaxing and breathing, visualisation too
Positions, affirmations and birth plans review
Anatomy, physiology, and hormone release
Baby bonding and nurturing and inner peace

You listen to music, and watch birth DVD's
Birth companion learns their role, to support and to please
As mothers advocate, their role is important no doubt
With knowledge and confidence, in control throughout,

Between classes you practise calm and surge breathing
Bouncing on your birthing ball during the evening
Perennial massage oh and light touch too
Shoulder anchors and poems, there's so much to do

To achieve the safe, calm and comfortable birth you deserve
When the birth show arrives you won't loose your nerve
When your surges begin it won't be so frightening
No pain will you feel, just pressure and tightening

While thinning and opening, you'll patiently wait
When offered intervention, there'll be no debate
A natural birth, like your body's designed for, indeed
For pain relief you'll find much less of a need

Relaxed and controlled when baby's head comes to crown
You'll picture your rose and you'll breathe baby down
Pulsating cord lies still, before clamping and cutting
Releasing your baby for skin to skin cuddling

Your baby is here - you're alert and elated
For this special moment, so long you have waited
Baby's arrived so perfect, so calm
And now lays contented in parents arms

So now when friends ask for YOUR birthing story
You can smile to yourself then bask in the glory
Of a fulfilling birth, and I hope you will say
I know just the person, there is a better way!

Congratulations on your beautiful bundle of pure joy
I am so happy to have been a part of your journey
And a warm welcome to baby
what a lucky boy/girl she/he is!

This wonderful poem is by the very talented, Linda Wardlaw
@ BirthMattersMK www.birthmattersmk.co.uk

Thankyou for allowing me to share Linda. X

 

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